“The Definition of Insanity is Doing the Same Thing Over and Over and Expecting a Different Result.”
The other day I wrote about how we need to ask questions of ourselves in order to figure out what’s going on if we keep running into roadblocks when dating.
Doing this is massively helpful. But if we answer those questions and then keep doing the same things, then our results will continue to suck. It’s not enough to just identify things we need to change.We need to actually DO those things. Sometimes this can be rough, and for many, it’s too far a step outside of our comfort zones.
So I recommend starting small. If you find that there are 7 things you’ve identified that you can change and do better, focus on improving 1 or 2 at a time. Once you become comfortable with those, then add in the other things in time.
So if you know that:
1) My body language is off
2) My dress sense sucks
3) My conversations are too boring
Maybe focus on the dress sense first (or whichever order you’d like to tackle them in)…get that taken care of, and then work on the others. You will still end up improving, yet you won’t feel overwhelmed in doing so. We can’t control what others think about us, but we can control what WE do about it.
If shit isn’t going how we’d like it to be, WE have to be the ones to make the effort to change it.