THE #1 “NICE GUY” MISTAKE

Actually, there are many…. but today I’m going to go over the biggest one…

It’s this idea that if you do nice things for a woman and “treat her right”, that somehow she then owes you affection (both in the emotional and physical sense).

They think that if they take her out to dinner (and pay), if they agree with everything she says, if they let her make all the decisions….

That it will mean women will see how great of a guy they are, and want to date/sleep with/enter into an LTR with them.

It doesn’t work that way.

Placating and trying to be overly pleasing is one of the worst things you can do in dating and relationships…

but not for the reasons you may think.

The real reason why it’s such a shitty strategy is because, ironically….

It’s not who you are…. You’re NOT being yourself.

You’re being a watered down, tone deaf version of you.

You’re purposely giving yourself a handicap, like boxing Mike Tyson with one arm tied behind your back.

You THINK that being that type of guy is more attractive.

But here’s the thing.

Women appreciate and value guys who are not afraid to show who they truly are, whether they disagree or not.

They appreciate and feel attraction towards a man who unapologetically says what he means and lets his true thoughts be known.

That’s a key difference between a “nice” guy and a “good” guy.

Good guys do good things, but they do them because they WANT to…not because they feel they HAVE to in order to get a desired result.

For those of you who still consider yourselves “nice guys,” I encourage you to try it.

Instead of biting your tongue and trying to please her….let YOU come out, even if you think it might be a bad idea.

You might be surprised with the result.

And even if the worst happens….at least you can walk away knowing that you let her get a glimpse of who you are..

and that’s a lot better than putting on a mask and being fake.

Because doing so will help the women who are right for you find you…and repel the ones that aren’t.

And isn’t that what it’s all about, anyway?

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