Is a successful relationship one that is “smooth sailing,” or one that has challenges and bumps in the road?
I saw a FB post from a guy saying that he wants to give up on relationships because they’re “too much hassle.”
In his mind, he and his girl should never fight, never argue, and always be positive. And if he can’t have this….he doesn’t want the relationship.
On one hand, I see his point. We have so much stress in our lives from our jobs, bills, commuting, etc., the last thing we need is even more strain in our romantic lives.
Relationships SHOULD be where we go to find comfort and peace from the everyday stresses of life.
On the other hand, if we don’t face challenges and difficulties, how do we grow and become better partners?
I have had to grow through challenges quite a bit in my relationship.
I am a very scheduled, regimented person in my daily life. If my plans get upset….I get upset. “Spontaneity” is not a positive word in my personal dictionary.
My partner, however, is a free flowing, spur of the moment type girl. How in the hell do we coexist?
By stepping out of our own bubble, stretching ourselves, and adapting.
Because our desire to make shit work is stronger than our desire to stay in our own personal comfort zones.
It took me a while to get used to it, but now, when plans change, I don’t stress. My challenges have helped me grow. The same applies to her, on days when we tell ourselves we’re making plans and sticking to them.
I would love to hear your thoughts or experiences with this question down below.